Dear ,

We continue to hold space for Eileen and her family as they grieve the death of Eileen's mother, Juanita Campbell. The past month and year have been a journey of providing care and support, and Eileen describes some of what she's learned during that time. Read her list of experiences and reflections below. 

We're also thinking about the beginning of Lent this week. Has it snuck up on you, too? We are offering a community of support for your Lenten practice throughout this season, and if that is what you are looking for, read more about that below!

This beautiful season of reflection and confession is here again. Lent invites us to give up practices or habits that hinder and distract us. It also invites us to take on practices that change our perspectives, call us to more intentional thoughts and actions, and are life-giving for ourselves and others. 

If you’d like some ideas for Lenten practices, we have resources for you. Here’s a post from last year with five Lenten practices for responding to this moment. Ask yourself these three questions as you consider your plans for Lent. Check out these ideas for children and grownups as we all navigate the season.

Lent can feel heavy and even bleak. After all, it begins with the Ash Wednesday reminder that “Dust you are, and to dust you shall return.” While that ashen reminder is true, it is not the only truth. I like to borrow the blessing from a friend of mine: “You are dust, and to dust you shall return, loved the whole way through.” Yes, this season in the church calendar and this season in the world in which we live IS heavy and sometimes feels bleak. AND we don’t journey through any of it alone. We are loved. Period. So this Lent I wonder, where do you see love in action? What brings you joy? How have you experienced grace?

May our practices this season help us put love in action, share joy generously, and offer grace to ourselves and others.

Grace and peace,

Laura Edgar

Minister of Support, 3MMM

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February 2, 2026

This morning I’m sharing a quick list of what I’m learning about spiritual care by taking care of my mama this year and especially in the past month. 

, I have been teaching pastoral and spiritual care for many years. I try always to ground it in my experiences of giving and receiving care. And I try to teach it experientially and ask students to pay attention to the full experience of care that is embodied, relational, emotional, and integrated. Both the positive and the negative experiences from my life and stories in the books and articles I share, inform my teaching. Experiential learning and practice are essential for spiritual care. What we do can be taught, but it can't be reduced to rules. Each new situation calls for its own pace, attention, and response. 

The past month I’ve been absorbed in giving care to my mom in the hospital and in hospice care, and this weekend a list started rolling around in my head. It is not a list of rules, but experiences that stand out in this long holy moment of my life and hers. It's kind of a 'notes to self' and 'remember this later' kind of list.

Here is what I'm learning about spiritual care through the experience of caring for my mama. 

1. Prioritize the person receiving care. It is so easy for everything else practical and emotional, medical and financial to jockey for the driver’s seat of attention, yet it is about the person – return to the person. Talk to them and ask them what they need. Prioritize their well-being. 
2. There is no end to cleaning.
3. Be kind to healthcare workers, and they are much more likely to return the kindness. A note of thanks with bagels and pastries once in a while is good, too.
4. Brush your teeth and go to bed early if you can – self care is very challenging to maintain. Prioritizing your own care is essential if you want to be able to prioritize the beloved person in your care. No either/or decisions here.
5. Crises come in pairs and triplets and quads. It’s rarely ever just one thing. See also: hospice care + ice storm x 8 days without power at home = exhaustion. Grateful for my spouse and partner Lynn who literally kept the home fires burning, kept the cats alive, and then got the third generator going. 
6. Talk about expectations with your fellow caregivers. Assuming gets everyone into trouble eventually. Just talk, even if it’s uncomfortable.
7. Soup goes down easy; and when made with love and care maybe even easier.
8. Hold hands. A lot. It seems to help with the unwinding. 
9. Go to the gym, walk outside, eat something green, put on some lip gloss, or get your nails done – the little routines and habits that keep you feeling like yourself. 
10. Praying takes a lot of forms ... changing a bed, sweeping the floor, doing the laundry, trimming fingernails, sending text updates, refilling the water cup, streaming soft guitar music, watching a movie together, asking questions then listening, waiting for the responses, gentle hugs every time you come and go. 

Bless you in all of your caregiving, . And I know some of you out there are learning the hard way what it is to receive care. May all the spiritual care in your life be mutual and a source of support and learning in practice. We are transformed into creatures of love when we practice giving and receiving love. May you know without any shadow of doubt that you are beloved. For when all else fails and life comes to a close, love remains. God’s love is here with us all along. Beginning to end. Let yourself know it all the way down. 

Let us continue to hold the Christ-light for each other.

Peace, 

Eileen

An Update from the 
New State of Clergy Report

As promised, we are sharing milestones and news related to the new State of Clergy Report as it becomes available. 

This week I want to tell you about growth and change for African American Baptist women in ministry. Our friends at Baptist Women in Ministry released a new "State of Women in Baptist Life" Report in December 2025. It includes findings about Baptist women pastors and clergy. One of the exciting parts of the report comes from the North Carolina General Baptist State Convention. This group is approximately the same size in terms of numbers of churches and ordained leaders as the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship. 

In 2013 women were estimated to be less than 1% of the pastors in Black Baptist churches across multiple denominations. In 2025 the SWBL report says 33 women are serving as pastors and co-pastors of GBST-NC churches. That means they are pastoring 2.3% of the 1423 churches. This is just one state in one historic Black Baptist denomination. Such encouraging news! 

If you want to know more about the revised and expanded State of Clergy Report that is currently under construction, please stop by and read more here:  

What changes have you witnessed for women and 

lgbtiq leaders in your denomination?

We welcome your input as we continue researching the next State of Clergy report. What would you like to share?

• information
• stories
• data
• books
• articles
• blogs
• news reports 
• elections of bishops or other church leaders
• conferences and events
• people we should interview
• questions you must have answered! 

All contributions will be independently verified before including them in the report. 

Our questions for you today: 

How are you anticipating the season of Lent? 

What practices are calling to you this season? 

Remember, , what you do and who you are matters! I believe in you, and I hope you will let me know how I can support you!

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